Are You A Magnificent Pervert?



Here’s the paradox for so many of us: The more we really start to LIKE someone, the less hot the s3x seems to become.
In fact, for a lot of people, the more they like someone (even before s3x happens), the less hot it will be when it does happen.
Why?
Because the crazy, dirty, wildly erotic things that really turn on us on lurk on the edges of our shame. And when we really like someone it feels intensely vulnerable to explore that territory for fear of being “found out” as “perverts” and being judged.
Who cares if that jerk at the bar thinks you’re a “slut”? Who cares if that drunk girl you took home thinks you’re a pervert?
But when it’s someone you really like, suddenly you have to start bringing out your “marriage material” game.
Ugh.
The fact is, I hear from men all the time that they fantasize about ejaculating into a woman’s mouth if she’s a one night stand or even a prostitute, but if it’s his wife, the mother of his children? Then it feels like it’s wrong or dirty. Even talking about it could be dangerous and make her re-think the entire marriage?
I hear from women all the time that it’s easy to have a night of wild, meaningless s3x with a guy they meet at a bar if he’s handsome, really into himself, and kind of dumb… definitely NOT relationship material. But when they meet a NICE guy who they really could imagine a future with… wild, meaningless s3x is off the menu. It’s time for long-delayed good-girl s3x.
This comes from shame. We want to look “good” to someone we really like. We’re afraid if we are too honest about our edgy s3xual desires we’ll get rejected, humiliated, lose out on a great girl/guy.
So is it any wonder that things only get WORSE in longer relationships? The stakes keep getting higher, we like each other even more, we’re already committed to the lie that we’re not magnificent perverts…
And what a shame, because we ARE! We ARE magnificent perverts!
So it’s no wonder that so many people don’t find longer term s3xual satisfaction in monogamy!
And I’ll tell you what… it gets EVEN WORSE… because given enough time, we even begin to believe the lie. We suppress the truth of our s3xual passion so much that we don’t even remember our true, wild and passionate nature.
And all of it because we don’t have the courage to be vulnerable with the ONE person on earth who MOST DESERVES our vulnerability and our s3xual passion: The one we fall in love with.

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