9 signs you're good in bed, according to experts

The act of s3x may be a normal conversation piece nowadays, but one thing people tend to still play coy about is the topic of good s3x. That may be because we’re not too sure what is technically considered "good s3x" and, further, how to know when we're delivering it.

Bethany Ricciardi, s3x expert for TooTimid, and Kevin Darné, founder of LoverAlert911.com, both confirmed to INSIDER, however, that there are indeed a few ways to put your mind at ease when it comes to knowing your status in the sack.

What happens, though, if your previous partners or current partner is shy? How will you know if you’ve got the memorable moves that will always get your lover in the groove?

Following are some surefire signs that prove you have what it takes to provide pleasure in the bedroom.

Simply put, you love s3x.

People may have their own ideas of what good s3x is, but, according to Darné, a simple indicator to knowing that you’re good in bed is how much you love s3x.

"You are always keeping an eye out for new and different ways to rock your mate’s world as well as enhance your own experience," he told INSIDER. "This may entail reading books, magazine articles, blogs, watching videos, or utilizing toys. You enjoy having spontaneous s3x and surprises. Simply put, you want to be the best and take pride in being skillful."

Anyone who loves what they are doing is usually good at it and s3x is no different.

You're open-minded and switch things up.

Ricciardi said that switching up the s3x positions and never skipping foreplay can also be signs that you’re good in bed.

"Many would agree foreplay is one of the best parts — and no one wants to sleep with someone who has a routine," she told INSIDER.

You're confident in yourself.

It's often been said that confidence will take you a long way in life, and, according to Ricciardi, that includes your s3x life.

"Having confidence could include your leaving the lights on, going completely nude, or wearing something super s3xy," she said. "You take control of the situation. You're vocal. You're enthusiastic. You feel them desiring you!"

Confidence in the bedroom can turn your partner on even more because they know you aren't afraid to display your s3xuality when with them.

You know what needs to be done to reach your peak.

Darné told INSIDER that someone who's good in bed does not fully rely on their partner to get them "off."

"A woman who has explored her own body and knows how to bring herself to climax can pretty much guide any man that is not 'naturally instinctive' in the ways of pleasing her," he said. "A s3xually proactive woman doesn't simply lay back and leave things up to chance."

No one wants an overly passive partner, so it's totally OK to assist in getting to your peak if you know what that requires. Great s3x is not for the timid, and you shouldn't be shy about getting yours.

Both of you are equally into it.

Having your partner approve of your good lovemaking while in the moment is always a nice indicator that you're good in bed, but Ricciardi said that approval isn't always going to be given vocally.

"You know you're good in bed when you find her leaning or angling her hips into your thrusts during s3x. Believe me, it means you're doing it right," she told INSIDER.

If you've gotten your partner to the point of an almost orgasm, be sure to not change the position. According to Ricciardi, nothing is worse than having something incredible interrupted and have to built back up again.

You aim to please.

Though many people's goal during s3x is to get pleasure, Darné told INSIDER that someone who's good in bed has more interest in doing the pleasing.

"A great lover is always more than willing to give as good as she or he gets. They're always looking to 'one-up' their mate's attempt to please them," he said. "In fact, a good lover is never completely satisfied if he or she knows his mate did not fully enjoy their session."

Having a partner that's more concerned with pleasing you is a turn on for most, so imagine what the results could be if both partners have this mentality.

You are attentive and vocal with your partner.

Darné also told INSIDER that being attentive and vocal during s3x is another way to know that you’re putting it down correctly.

"Everyone loves to hear the sounds of their partner experiencing pleasure. A good lover pays attention to what causes their partner to moan, breathe heavy, and observes how their body reacts to things they are doing for them, to them, and with them," he said. "A great lover is not "locked into a few go-to moves". Given time you can learn what every sigh or body movement means guiding you towards your next move of deciding whether to tease or to please. Communicating desires and fantasies outside of the bedroom is just as important as giving queues inside the bedroom."

Keeping an open line of communication and being honest with your partner about what pleases you in the bedroom will help keep things from becoming boring and mundane.

You're hard — maybe even impossible — to forget.

"Most of us have experienced at one time or another being involved with someone who was absolutely incredible in bed but we had sense enough to move on for various other reasons,” he said. "However from time to time, we experience flashbacks and memories of experiences we had with them when we're alone or even with a new partner. A great lover is impossible to forget."

The only issue with being a great lover is that your exes may just have a hard time forgetting you.