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One Little Mental Shift That Can Change Your Shagging Life for the Better To many straight men, shagging is penis-in-vagina penetration. Granted, some allow for the existence of anal, while oral counts to some as shagging just as much, but rarely do we ever acknowledge what shagging truly is: fluid. No, not the exchange of fluids, but rather the idea that there’s more to shagging than P-in-V penetration, and what that means can be different for any given person, couple or polyamorous arrangement. There’s a wealth of shagging that can occur without your penis penetrating a vagina or an anus, and guys do themselves a disservice by ignoring that. Not only is a laser-like focus on penetrative shagging narrow-minded and exclusionary (for instance, classic penetrative shagging isn’t feasible for all people), it can also lead to bad shagging when you actually do get to penetration. People who need more warm-up time to be in the right mood, as well as those who struggle to orgas...

And What Each Kiss Means Can you name one person is this world who doesn’t love the soft touch of a kiss? After all, it’s a romantic show of passionate love. If you look at it, we take kisses for granted. It’s what everyone gives and receives. But, the moment you start to cherish every single kiss, you’ll realise how much of an effect it has on your emotions. Each kiss can mean something different to different people, and that’s the beauty of it. Take a look at types of kisses you should know about. 1. Spiderman Kiss Well, the kiss comes from the age-old movie Spiderman, where Spiderman is kissed by Mary Jane when he hangs upside-down. What It Means:  I like toying around with you and want to add a Hollywood touch to our kiss life 2. Smooch A smooch is usually done without the use of tongue. It’s a passionate kiss that lasts for no less than 10 seconds. What It Means:  I love teasing you. 3. Kiss Emoji When you’re not around your girl but you really ...

What goes through his head when you strip down, from one guy's POV Hooking up with someone for the first time can be passionate, exciting...and completely nerve-wracking. That's right, ladies—we're not all as calm and collected as we may seem. Under that shirt you're just waiting to rip off (a man can dream, right?) is a guy who wants you but also really, really wants to please you. Don't get me wrong—we  are  champing at the bit to get in your pants—but we're also anxious as hell. Here are some of men's biggest first-time fears. 1. Dragon Breath and Tiger Claws Yes, men can be gross (I swear there is an elf that pees on toilet seats). But that doesn't mean we aren't worried about our hygiene when we're about to get in bed with you. From the very first kiss of the night, we start to think, "I hope my mouth still tastes like spearmint and not that fried calamari appetizer and tequila shot." (Side note: If that's what he...

You might think he's ready for round two, but his penis says, "Do not pass go." After a successful session in the sack, you might be looking for an encore. But unlike us, dudes have to take into account their refractory period—the time between their first orgasm and when they could successfuly have another—before they can even consider making love again (buzzkill).  Despite what you've seen in movies, the idea that you should be able to make love three or four times within a few hours on a Saturday night probably isn’t realistic for most guys, says urologist Richard K. Lee, M.D., of Weill Cornell Medicine. “He's probably going to need at least an hour or two to become erect after ejaculating,” says Lee.  Womp, womp. In fact, there’s no hard data on how long his refractory period should last. However, estimates range from 30 minutes to 24 hours, and it likely increases with age, according to a new review in the  Journal of S3xual Medicine . Scien...

Some honest feedback from a dude who's been there. Any time a woman says something in bed along the lines of, “What do you want me to do to you?” my mind goes blank. I mean, sure, there’s stuff that needs doing. But, to be honest, I don’t even know what words would turn her on. Penis maybe? Dick? Boner? How about schlong—would schlong work? Since (for the most part) guys are totally clueless, we appreciate it when you  initiate the dirty talk . So on behalf of verbally stunted men everywhere, please feel free to speak up during coitus. (Though you probably want to avoid using the highly uns3xy word coitus.) When you do, here’s what will be going through our heads.  1. “Score! She’s into it!”  There are tons of ways to  provide feedback in the bedroom —you can writhe, moan, or dig your nails into us (but not too hard because that hurts). But no signal is as easy to read as  actual words . It’s proof that you’re not just along for the, uh, ...

Men are increasingly finding themselves confronted by some pretty powerful notions about their love making drives and how they respond to the 21st century woman. There are some longstanding myths about us and our expectations of the women in our lives — here are five common ones, along with the realities behind them. 1. Men are intimidated when a woman has had a lot of s3xual partners. It isn't the experience that freaks us out; it's the talking about it. When you tell us you learned this amazing technique from a Kundalini teacher in Prague, we're then stuck with the mental image of you steaming up a yoga studio with another man. So tell us you found that move in a Kama Sutra book and have always wanted to try it out. Yeah, we'll know you're probably fibbing, but we'll be much happier without that yoga teacher in our heads. 2. Men expect women to be as s3xually forward as them. Well, maybe, maybe not. Let me ask you this: How special would you fe...